I find it very hard to be positive at this time of year. I have spent yet another year away from my family and it’s really hard when you know that everyone around you is with their family. For me it becomes a time of thankfulness, reflection, and wishing!
Over the years I’ve been very fortunate to be invited to spend Christmas with close friends and become involved in their family celebrations. Although this makes me feel very special, it does highlight the fact that as a family we selected to live thousands of miles apart. My partner wasn’t able to spend Christmas with his children as they also live hundreds of miles away. This year it was just the two of us with our three cats! It’s so easy to just have ‘another day’, but we made a conscious decision to make Tuesday a special day for us; and we did!
The Christmas celebrations in France and Portugal are different to those in the UK and the British Colonies. The family meal is held on Christmas Eve in the evening when presents are exchanged before the families go to midnight mass. We thought about making a change to how we traditionally celebrate Christmas, but we decided to do the ‘normal’ thing and have Christmas on the 25th.
A couple of days before I had seen this quote:
Every time you put something positive into the Universe,
the world changes.
Your kindness invites miracles to show up,
not just in your world,
but in the whole world!
When I reflect back over the past few months I find it interesting that the decision I took many years ago that I would not include negative people into my life; that this is now coming to fruition. We often see quotes about being positive, saying positive things, thinking positive thoughts; but it’s not as easy as it sounds. At the end of September I got a great reminder that positive thinking brings positive results – Smudge turned up on our doorstep. He is still seeing the vet regularly and has recently overcome cat ‘flu (which can be fatal), Gingavitus (mouth infection triggered by the cat ‘flu), and is now waiting for another operation on his eye. He bounces around the house, rushing around from one place to another, shows an excitement in everything that he thinks is new, but we’ve now found out that he had suffered for longer than the 6 months we were originally led to believe – he is probably now just over 2 years old! We can’t imagine how he survived for those two years, and are still so grateful that the Universe sent him to us.
With the time I spent with him and am still spending with him to overcome each one of these challenges, he continuously reminds me that if you think positively – positive happens. As a result of this I am no longer allowing the negative in!
This month has been a classic example of how I’ve changed in my thinking. I work with a number of colleagues and two particular colleagues are still working with what I call the ‘blame’ culture. It doesn’t matter what you say or suggest – negative returns immediately! I remember smiling when I wrote to one saying that I no longer had time for this … I would find a resolution to our problem in a different way.
A quote I received recently said:
To perpetually receive, Barbara, perpetually give.
Whatever you want,
So as this calendar year end comes to an end, I have to be thankful that my parents with my brother and his family had a fabulous Christmas Day together in the sunshine with a braai (in Europe known as a BBQ). I was able to call them and share in their fun for a few moments. Even through the chill we had a fabulous and fun-filled day – I’m thankful for that. I’m grateful that some of the major challenges are behind me – my divorce has now been granted.
My mantra (or motto) for 2013 is going to be ‘positive thoughts, bring positive actions, bring positive results’; and as I go into the next few days I’m grateful that I’m working with two fabulous business partners as we continue to launch our new and successful business.
So as we go into the next calendar year, I leave you with this thought …
The positive thinker sees the invisible
feels the intangible
and achieves the impossible.